Exhibit A. Non-custodial "other" biological parent of my 22 month old son changes physical address/residence where he has scheduled visitation with him, but FAILS to notify ME, or the courthouse, of the change in address. I had no idea WHERE my child was going for visitation for some of April, all of May, and part of June (2012). But I continued to send him off for visitation (even though each night he was not with me I was plagued with stress-related ailments such as insomnia, panic attacks, anxiety, increase in OCD symptoms, swelling & spasming of my stomach and gastrointestinal tract....). You know why? Because not doing so would have been unfair to the "other party", and even though they had broken their visitation/contact agreement with me, I was not about to do the same to them.
Well, this
Exhibit B. Same person mentioned above, now has two children on the way. One with his OTHER ex, they were together for just a few months, and, she even admitted to sneaking doing pills in the apartment they shared at the time, WHILE my son was there for scheduled visitation. She's due in oh like September. By the way she's almost 30 and can't even hold a damn waitressing job!
Also, he has one on the way with his CURRENT and THIRD "baby momma", who just turned 20 and has pretty much only earned income from babysitting etcetera, and they live in one of her grandfather's properties, so I DOUBT there is much of a burden of financial responsibility there. She thinks she can change him. BAH!! Good luck!!!! I used to be as ignorant as you ;-) You will grow out of it!!
But basically, and truthfully -
After all this and all that and then some -
I am sick to my stomach. How is a laborer making slightly over minimum wage and working odd hours and barely working 4-5 (give or take) months out of the year going to afford his child support bill to a 22-month old, PLUS his soon-to-be DSER/DHHS-enacted child support bill to the state for his second child on the way, AND THEN supporting a "girl"-friend and HIS THIRD YOUNG CHILD UNDER THE AGE OF THREE??
He won't be able to do it. Financially OR emotionally. I stopped believing in his devotion to our child together a long time ago. Obviously our child is NOT his first priority. That's why my son calls another man with the balls to follow through on fatherhood "DADA".
The state deducts his child support, but he has YET to pay off his Small Claims Court ordered debt to his FIRST baby momma, and he has had nearly a year so far to pay off the debt too!
There. I can vent now. Oh. He was found in contempt of my small claims judgment against him the week before last, too. It feels good to finally see the scales of justice balanced. Now that the stressful overwhelming and weary, all too tiring bureaucratic court processes are - for the most part, for now, I hope for good - done with, I can finally vent and rant and rave and bitch and moan and run my mouth about it!
I feel so much better now.
If you think you know everything about me, you most likely don't, but if you are reading this, and you thought you knew everything about everything going on in my life, you ought not to think you are so all-knowing now.
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